Let it GO!!!!!!

Couple of days back I was sitting over dinner when one of my friends asked me, "Why no new entry on your blogs, people are missing it..."

Dunno if he really meant it or not but here is another one...

I have no background in philosophy or am not a person who can write on a topic like this.. just trying to scribble whats going in my head while I am sitting in office with no work to do.. I was going through one of the blogs of a friend and it just put my nervous system to some workout....let me know your honest opinion...

Over last few months I have faced and even seen people facing the toughest of choices.. "whether to hold on to a thing/ person or let it go??" Be it matter of hearts when your bf/gf has broken up with you.. be it a question of friends.. or be it a simple question of choosing one job over other....

The question sounds so simple and your near and dear ones would come up with the answer quicker than you can imagine and with such an ease that one wonders if these people are so straight forward in their approach to life and how simple their lives can be!!!!
What we don't know is whether these friends would take the same decision when faced with the situation!!! My experience says,"NO". It may sound lame to you but when in crisis everyone succumbs to pressure and is not ready to take one of the options or rather "Let it go"

In such a situation one goes around seeking advice hoping to find an answer....Mostly the answer I have got is "To let go things...".

The most common reason givens are,"It wasn't meant to be."
"Why cry over the spilled milk!!"
"There is always something better awaiting you"
"Whatever happens, happens for the good"
"Cribbing over it won't change things"
"I know its easier said than done..but.."

The irony of the situation is that X doesn't realise that he is not going to find a solution by seeking advice. What he is looking for is to hear "Hold on to it. Don't let it go". X has the belief that he doesn't want to let it go but none of his friends would place their faith in his belief.
I don't understand why X goes around asking for advice when he already knows the answer!!! To me this approach isn't justified. I would rather try to find an answer on my own and hold on to my belief.

A friend of mine is facing a similar situation. He is madly in love with a girl but his parents are not agreeing to the same. Now the guy is in a dilemma,"To let go or not". The parents are adamant and are not ready to listen. The friend feels that life will be so great with the girl. Parents are looking for a match. He asked me for help!!! "Its a choice you have to make. If you can't get your parents and the girl to a common platform, You have to let go one of them. Whether the girl or parents,you have to decide." The friend is having sleepless nights think over it again and again.

Its not that I haven't faced similar situation or am a master in finding solutions to them but I just think someone else can provide an answer to such a problem. Its about the perception gap between you and the person. You will always find a "but" or a "reason" to counter his opinion. We just one to listen to the answer which is already living in our minds......

Well the whole blog has gone round and round and I am scribbling something which later even I won't understand...

The crux of entire problem is that "Why you want to hold on or don't want to let it go!!"...

I could just see it a war between "Faith" and "Ego"... Faith of the person coming back to you...Ego..How can he do this to ME???...So far only one of my dearest friends..Zaci..has told me that,"Abhi hold on to it. Be patient. Have faith"I have always seen Faith winning the war against Ego. If you are not able to let the person go because you won't be able to face friends after getting dumped or you fight a war at office.. believe me the damages are far more serious than you can imagine..

"Faith" is something which would really take a test of your patience and you may or may not achieve what you want to.. in the end, you might have to let the person go.. but the feeling won't bitter and you won't regret taking such a step..You might have to let go things sooner or later... its better to let go a person who doesn't care...
I just put myself in one situation before making a choice "Am I going to regret taking this choice in life??" There are always factors and individuals attached to this question but The answer solves my problem and I prefer making the choice...
The topic may not have any end...but its better for me to put down my pen here...looking for honest comments on the topic and the treatment to it.. I always believe that It could have deserved a better treatment and there is always a gap...May be that's why am "insatiable"...

until next time.. Abhi